In a world where modern dating often feels like a maze filled with dead ends, it’s not surprising that many adults are struggling to find long-term love. Statistics reflect that reality: nearly half of American adults today have never married, are divorced, or are widowed. Comparative studies show that the number of people ages 25–50 who have never married has climbed significantly since the 1970s. With traditional avenues failing so many, some individuals are opting for more unconventional approaches to partnership.
One of the boldest examples comes from Aella, a 33-year-old writer and well-known OnlyFans creator. She has launched two highly publicized offers that blend matchmaking, financial incentives, and data-driven selection. The first is a $100,000 “marriage bounty” for anyone who introduces her to a man she eventually marries. The second is a much larger $300,000 referral fee for anyone who connects her to a benefactor interested in a unique parenting arrangement—specifically, someone willing to fund a $10 million post-tax agreement for her to become pregnant and raise the child independently.
Aella explains that her dating pool is unusually narrow due to her personality, lifestyle, and preferences. She openly describes herself as “a very weird person,” acknowledging that traditional dating simply doesn’t match her circumstances. Instead of leaving love to chance—especially when studies estimate that less than 5% of people meet a long-term partner through random encounters—she is attempting to create a transparent, structured system.
What She’s Looking For
In a detailed Substack post, Aella lists clear criteria for a potential long-term partner. Her requirements include:
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A man who is fully comfortable with long-term polyamory, with space for a primary partner.
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A person who embraces a darker, more intense form of romantic expression.
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Someone who wants children.
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A partner in a similar financial bracket.
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A high degree of emotional self-acceptance.
She also notes a handful of “nice to have” qualities such as intelligence, specific political leanings, a compatible age range, and general lifestyle habits. But the above shortlist represents her core, non-negotiable needs.
How the Referral System Works
To ensure fairness, clarity, and accountability, Aella has set up defined mechanics for the bounty:
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New Referrals Only
The person making the introduction must refer someone Aella has not seriously considered before. -
First Come, First Served
Only one recommender qualifies, unless there are special circumstances where multiple people played a significant role. -
Survey-Driven Vetting
Candidates must complete an extensive survey that evaluates personal values, relationship outlook, logic puzzles, romantic styles, and life history.
Recommenders complete a separate form. -
Honesty Is Mandatory
Any discovered falsehood in the survey nullifies the match.
Aella states she will immediately end the relationship and publicly acknowledge dishonesty. -
Offer Expires Upon Marriage
If she marries someone else, the bounty ends—though she may reintroduce the concept later.
Aella frames the system as a realistic extension of what many matchmaking agencies already offer. She notes, “If I imagine myself already happily married and someone asked if I would’ve paid $100,000 to meet my husband, I think the answer would be yes.” In her view, the cost is worth the value of meeting the right person.
The $10 Million Parenting Agreement
Separate from romantic matchmaking, Aella is also seeking introductions to a benefactor willing to finance a $10 million post-tax parenting arrangement. In this scenario, she would:
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Become pregnant via an agreed-upon method.
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Raise the child as a single parent with full custody.
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Utilize hired support and a curated parenting community.
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Potentially use one of her many frozen eggs.
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Consider polygenic screening.
The recommender would receive a $300,000 fee if such a deal is finalized.
Why She Thinks This Approach Works
Aella believes that crowdsourced, data-backed matchmaking can outperform dating apps or chance encounters. She cites her current four-year relationship, which began through a previous survey that highlighted compatibility she would not have noticed otherwise. She also acknowledges her attraction to high-status partners and the desire to be challenged and inspired by someone she genuinely wants to impress.
Given that only about 3% of people meet her polyamory criteria—and even fewer are suited for the lifestyle and public visibility she maintains—she admits eligible candidates will be rare. But even a slight increase in probability, she says, makes the financial incentives worthwhile.
You can follow Aella’s updates on X at @Aella_Girl.