How to Try Double Penetration: A Guide to Safe and Pleasurable Exploration
Understanding Double Penetration
Chances are, you’ve encountered double penetration (DP) in adult content and wondered what it feels like. It’s natural to be curious—and even to want to explore it yourself. Despite its often-intense portrayal in pornography, double penetration is an experience that has evolved to be more inclusive, involving various pairings, toys, and even solo experimentation.
If you’re considering trying double penetration, whether with a partner, a group, or solo, it’s important to be informed. Here’s what you need to know, with expert-backed advice and real experiences from those who have enjoyed it.
What Is Double Penetration?
“Double penetration has typically been defined as two penises penetrating the same woman—one in the vagina and one in the anus,” explains Jenni Skyler, PhD, LMFT, C-PST, and in-house expert at AdamEve.com.
In the past, this definition distinguished DP from an “Eiffel Tower” scenario, where one partner is engaged orally while another penetrates vaginally or anally. However, as Skyler notes, the definition of DP has expanded.
“Today, DP can also include the mouth, as well as the use of fingers, tongues, and toys like dildos and butt plugs,” she says. This broader definition makes DP more accessible to couples and individuals who may not be ready to introduce a third person into their experience but still want to experiment.
Why Is Double Penetration Exciting?
There’s a reason double penetration is popular in adult content—and why many people are eager to try it in real life.
“For givers, the appeal lies in the fantasy, the non-traditional nature of the act, and the possible elements of dominance and submission,” Skyler explains. “For receivers, the excitement comes from accessing multiple erogenous zones at the same time.”
For Ali, 32, and her long-term partner, the motivation to try DP came from a desire to explore new sensations.
“We had been together for over a decade and started experimenting with toys to add variety to our sex life,” she says. “The first time I used a vibrator while having anal sex with my partner, I knew I wanted to try DP with a third person. Luckily, my partner was open to the idea.”
Tips for Engaging in Double Penetration
According to Eugina O Liberty, a sex expert from JOYclub.com, the first step to trying DP is open communication with your partner(s) about expectations, boundaries, and comfort levels.
Essential Conversations to Have Before DP:
- Do you want to use condoms?
- When was your last sexual health check-up?
- Are you using contraception?
- Where is it acceptable for someone to finish (mouth, vagina, anus)?
“Discussing these topics in advance helps create a relaxed and enjoyable experience,” says O Liberty.
She also emphasizes the importance of personal hygiene, especially when engaging in anal play. “Using a douche to clean your rectum beforehand can make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable.”
Ali and her partner met their third via FetLife.com, arranging a few in-person meetings before the experience to ensure compatibility.
“We knew we’d found the right person because they were comfortable discussing everything beforehand,” Ali recalls. “They were experienced and understood the importance of STI testing, safe sex, and having a safeword. They also respected our limits as a couple.”
Comfort and Consent Are Key
During the experience, speaking up is essential—especially if something feels uncomfortable or painful.
“My first time, I felt pressure to just go with it since I was the one being penetrated,” says Ali. “Eventually, I spoke up, and we adjusted positions, which made a huge difference.”
Patience is crucial. It may take time for everyone to find a rhythm, especially if it’s a first-time experience. Frequent check-ins with all partners can ensure that everyone is comfortable and enjoying themselves.
What Happens After DP?
Sexual aftercare is often overlooked but is just as important as the act itself.
“In retrospect, I wish we had discussed what would happen after we were done,” Ali admits. “My partner and I wanted time alone to reconnect, but we felt awkward about asking our third to leave immediately. If we do this again, I’ll communicate our needs more clearly upfront.”
Final Thoughts
Double penetration can be an exciting and deeply satisfying experience when done safely and consensually. Clear communication, hygiene, protection, and trust among all participants are essential. Whether you’re exploring DP with toys, a partner, or multiple people, setting expectations and respecting boundaries will help create a pleasurable and stress-free experience.